But then, the truth was never really the point. Thin women don’t tell their fat friends ‘You’re not fat’ because they’re confused about the dictionary definition of the word, or their eyes are broken, or they were raised on planets where size 24 is the average for women. They don’t say it because it’s the truth. They say it because fat does not mean just fat in this culture. It can also mean any or all of the following:
Just plain icky
So when they say ‘You’re not fat,’ what they really mean is ‘You’re not a dozen nasty things I associate with the word fat.’ The size of your body is not what’s in question; a tape measure or a mirror could solve that dispute. What’s in question is your goodness, your lovability, your intelligence, your kindness, your attractiveness. And your friends, not surprisingly, are inclined to believe you get high marks in all those categories. Ergo, you couldn’t possibly be fat.
"Expecting girls to be the gatekeepers of boys’ bad behavior is a slippery slope to placing more serious restrictions on women’s bodies, and lets boys off the hook at a time when they should be focusing on how to improve their own actions."
“…the point of releasing these [nudes]—or threatening to—is not the pleasure of seeing someone naked. After all, there are millions of images of naked women who happen to be consenting available online. It’s about…the pleasure of hurting and humiliating a woman who offended you by being unobtainable, and by standing up for other women.”—
Amanda Marcotte on 4chan’s threat to release nudes of Emma Watson after her feminist speech [Source] (via amidtheflowers)
But the thing is, it actually doesn’t matter if it was a joke or a hoax. It doesn’t matter if no one had any nudes or ever actually intended to rifle through her private accounts to dig up something embarrassing on her.
What matters is that a woman made a powerful statement about the need for gender equality and was immediately attacked because of it. What matters is that other women see that and think, “That’s what will happen to me if I stick my neck out.” And so many of them choose not to speak up out of fear of retribution, and women are put right back in their “proper place” once again, the patriarchy defended.
Good lord martin is such an impeccable actor every person who calls him an Everyman dismissively is a moron because what he does is make real, breathing, deep, layered Everymen that are not Everymen at all but unique individuals he doesn’t play characters he plays humans and that is a fucking art do not even talk to me about Martin’s acting he’s a fucking master